Tiny acts of stunning grace It’s amazing that I, of all people, ended up teaching about happiness, positive workplace culture, and how to have great relationships with everyone you know. Amazing indeed, when you discover just how bad I used to be at all of those things. I was a reluctant bride, so reluctant that when my husband Phil first proposed my instant answer was: ‘Oh f**k off! Don’t be ridiculous.’ Yes, I know. Not overly caring was I? In my defence, I wasn’t the only one who thought it was ridiculous. When we did marry, just six weeks after my dramatic refusal, it was amid cries of dismay from almost everyone who knew us. His parents didn’t want the likes of me in their house and even my parents though Phil was too good for me.